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Saturday, December 9, 2017

Snow Day Saturday

There have been some unsettling changes happening in my life this fall, changes that I do not want to share in this space, and as a result I have been somewhat silent here for the past few months.  In the midst of these changes, I have been mindful of taking care of me, letting myself move a little slower (which life, fortunately, has gone along with) and investing my time in things that comfort and soothe my soul.

Although we are in the midst of the hustle and bustle of Christmas, today was a gift, a snowy Saturday where we all could stay home, take our time doing a little work but mostly resting and playing, enjoying the peace of Christmas lights, one another, and a day long snow fall.

Barely any snow at 10am but he was ready to go play!

How do you like the mulch-snow angel?

We blew up "Snowy" to welcome the first snow of the year

The very best afternoon - baking cookies, Little B being creative and...

Little P napping
Nighttime walk through falling snow - in spite of running, shouting, snow-ball throwing boys, still romantic:)
The peace I have been enjoying every night

 It feels to me like not just my life but the whole world is filled with unrest right now.  Praying that all of you are finding ways to find a little bit of peace in the midst of it all too.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

Birthday Fun

The boys have been talking for days about the birthday scavenger hunt they created for me.  Little P, amazingly, even kept it a secret.  And I (not so patiently) waited all day today for its unveiling.  Their creativity amazed and delighted me, so here it is for all my world to see!

We hope you are elated, For this house bound game, Five clues the boys created, To find your presents is the aim.

The first clue wrapped in that blue ribbon read:

"There are no slimy pickles in this smaller "play" version of a real room,"

which lead to, of course, the play kitchen!


The second clue, wrapped in that white ribbon on top of the Melissa & Doug birthday cake, read:

"First Monet, then Colonial Williamsburg, will get you to Puerto Rico and your next clue."

Yup, that Puerto Rico thing stumped me too and had me hilariously laughing at its absurdness, until I remembered that we own a board game named Puerto Rico, which is right next to some Colonial Williamsburg picture frames in the guest room...




The third clue read:

"Pirate pig is looking in the direction of a collection of mostly handmade items that keep you warm"

I'll admit, once I got past laughing about the pirate pig phrase, it took me a little while to figure out what in the world they were talking about.  The boys finally gave me some clues, which reminded me of Little B's pirate themed piggy bank, which was positioned on his desk to look into his closet, specifically to the pile of knitted baby blankets on his shelf.




Inside was a new mouse pad with pictures of my boys and the next clue:

"Five "family" animals arrayed 2 by 2 keep watch over your next present"

This clue was tricky too.  There are two places in the house where we have a collection of my grandmother's water color artwork, many of which are animals.  The first spot revealed exactly five animals peering down on a beautiful new plant for my windowsill from Longwood (hidden in the midst of little man's Lego fire station, of course),



and the last clue:

"A new source of light and heat is helping your last present shine."

To the new fireplace - of course!  And some earrings the boys picked out for me:)




(Can you tell which little boy just couldn't keep his little hands from "helping"?) 

Kudos to my amazing husband and enthusiastic little boys!  Years ago when I named this blog I was a young mommy, amazed at the overflowing love I felt for my young family.  It was a wonderful gift tonight to feel that overflowing love coming back from them.  And many thanks to everyone else who sent happy birthday wishes, I gratefully accept them and send all my love back to each of you.

 

 


Thursday, July 27, 2017

Summer loves

Here we are - the end of a week, the end of a month, 2/3rds of the way through summer.  I'll admit that I've had quite a few "is it time to go back to school yet?!" moments this week, so in case any other moms out there are burning out and looking for some fresh ideas, here are a couple of the things that have been entertaining us this summer.

Mr. Lemoncello - Little B and I stumbled upon Escape from Mr. Lemoncello's Library when we were looking for a new chapter book to read and once we started reading, we couldn't finish it fast enough.  What an entertaining book!  It is children's fantasy in a Charlie and the Chocolate Factory sort of way, where an ordinary kid is dropped into an extraordinary competition which revolves around books, games and an out of this world library. We blitzed through an audiobook version of the second book, Mr. Lemoncello's Library Olympics in a week and the boys were seriously disappointed that they have to wait until October for the third book to be published.  I know reading children's fiction isn't for everybody, but this was a quick and entertaining read that I cannot recommend enough for anyone who loves books.


Story time at the local creamery?  Yes please!


Moana - Hooray for Disney making their latest feature available on Netflix!  We enjoyed the movie so I bought the soundtrack on a whim before a road trip and we have been rocking out to the Polynesian-esque music ever since.  (Also, I give myself a couple cool points for owning some of Lin-Manuel Miranda's music!)  Little P's favorite song is, "Where You Are" because, in his words, "I like the coconuts!"  Little B's favorite song is, "Song 9" (otherwise known to the rest of the world as "Logo Te Pate"), something about the beat of that song resonates in his head and heart.  I witnessed him one time going to town drumming along with the song on the sides of his car seat, I'm still waiting for his encore.

Happy boy - that thing behind him was a water slide!


Geo-caching - I spent a morning a couple years ago geo-caching with a friend and her older son.  We really just walked along with/behind them because my boys were too young to get it.  We had an empty morning this week so I decided to try it and it was a hit!  We found three of the five caches we went after, feeling awesomely victorious when we found the first one and a more than a bit bummed with the ones we couldn't find.  I suppose there's a lesson in perseverance to be found in this game.  I'm looking forward to searching out more caches as we continue our summer adventures in the next couple weeks.

Don't worry - he didn't eat that whole thing by himself


Bedtime Math - I learned about this app/website from our library's summer reading program last summer and cannot believe it has taken me this long to mention it here because it is awesome.  There is a short, interesting story everyday and then three different level math questions that are based on the story.  My kids are at the Little Kids and Big Kids levels and generally can't wait to look at the question over breakfast (that's the time that works best for us).  This is a super easy way to keep the math brain cells stirring over summer break (and, really, all year long).

How they felt the day Mom forgot to bring the towel bag to swim lesson (whomp!)


Wow in the World - NPR started this podcast for kids back in May and we are loving it!  The two hosts take a scientific news story, or just a concept of interest to kids, add a dose of kid-appropriate silliness and the result is 15-20 captivating minutes of learning and fun (and yes, we start the NPR brain washing early in our house;)  There are a couple of follow-up discussion questions for each podcast on their website that extend the scientific silliness in the best way possible.

Sparkler driveway fun

 So that's all I got, at least for now.  We have one more big trip and one more small one before we have to start waking up on school-bus time so that we're ready for the big first day.  If anything has been rocking your world this summer please pass it along, we still have plenty of time for entertainment and learning and adventuring!  


Friday, June 30, 2017

A piece of summer pie

And just like that, June is over.  I am ending this month with a great amount of peace and happiness in my heart, because the huge project that I have been working on since the start of this year and in earnest for the past month is complete, and I think it was a success.  Vacation Bible School can be just one piece of a Christian Educator's job, but this was my first time running the show and it's invigorating to know that I really can do this thing that I say I'm called to do.  Plenty of thoughts in my head about how to do it better in the future, of course, and lots of debriefing and volunteer thank you notes to write.  But so much less pressure now!

First morning of VBS, and by God's grace we were still all smiles at the end



I pray that they will always find strength and confidence and joy in their faith



Despite the fact that my mind and time have been overwhelmingly devoted to VBS all month, we managed to fit in a lot.  Little B went to see his first professional theatrical show with Grampa at the Kennedy Center (Sound of Music, and yes I am jealous that I wasn't included).  Little P turned 4!

Invited a friend over for a birthday play date, which included a silly string fight!

Both boys took a short trip on the Amtrak train, which might just be the highlight of their whole summer so far.  They had a sleepover at Gramma's and Mom-Mom's homes, both of which included trips to the pool.  They visited a Smithsonian museum and an Amish Village.  They helped raise a huge American flag at Ft. McHenry and went strawberry and blueberry picking.




Yes, that is a giant strawberry playground.



 They are devouring Harry Potter books as frequently as Hubby T and I will sit down to read to them and delighting in a newfound favorite show (SuperWhy, thanks for the suggestion Aunt A!).

Sound like enough for one summer?  Time to slow down and eat the massive amount of zucchini that our garden is producing?  No way, there is much more to come.  Watch out July here we come!

Enjoying a few quiet days at home before we're off again!
 

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Made for This

So this happened...

Turtle and Ladybug years complete - onto the Froglets!

and this happened...

Last day of kindergarten - check!

Onto bigger and better things...


And now summer is here - calendar wise (mid-June) and weather wise (90 degrees, phew) and schedule wise (wait, I have both kids all day every day now?!).  Kindergarten was not rigorous enough to make me breathe a sigh of relief now that it's over.  Instead I am finding myself at a bit of a loss, as both my kids keep looking to me to entertain them and it's happening almost non-stop from sun up to sun down.  What's a restless crew and their uninspired mom to do?  Get out of the house!

Yesterday we adventured to a familiar place to see a new thing.  The main fountain garden at Longwood has been closed for renovation ever since we joined almost two years ago.  But now it's open and beautiful and there are new things to be explored, like a (shaded!) grotto!  And a waterfall near the chime tower!





 
Today we adventured in the other, mostly unfamiliar direction to find an Amish lawn furniture company that has 18 play sets out for display and is open to the public for free play time.  The heat didn't put any sort of damper on the excitement of these two at such a display.  They ran hard until they started asking for water and I observed that every piece of hair on their heads was drenched in sweat.  Time for this mom-referee to call the game.

This play set had a slide that ended in a ball pit - jackpot!


Then we drove a short distance away to visit The Amish Village.  I have been wanting to visit one of these places and learn more about the Amish ever since we moved here.  The place we visited was a little weak, I can't say that I learned all that much new about the Amish, but it was an interesting and entertaining visit nonetheless.  Little B said his favorite part was seeing the inside of the buggy they drive in that we pass on the road sometimes.

Hard to believe that some people still learn in rooms like this


And simmering in the background of all this summertime is Vacation Bible School because this year, for the very first time, I am a VBS Director.  I have been working on this since January and now it's less than two weeks away and I am thinking about it all the time (hmm, maybe that explains my lack of inspiration for entertaining my kiddos?)  On the one hand, I am terrified of being unprepared or mis-planning something.  I want to get everything beyond just right, I want it all to be great, like Tony the Tiger gggrrreat!  I also recognize that no matter how hard I work, something will go wrong and I need to accept that I can't make everything perfect for everybody, especially my first time around (it's all about grace in a church anyway, right?)  On the other hand, I am absolutely thrilled because I am finally digging into the work that I was called to do.  I don't have time to search back through the blog and see if I ever wrote about my "call" story to provide a link to it but if you haven't heard it, rest assured that I do have one and helping children learn about God and a life of faith is undoubtedly my God-given calling in life (along with being a mom of course).  So you can imagine the joy in my heart as I drove along the beautiful country roads this morning, my amazing children in the backseat, singing away with me at the top of our lungs to our VBS songs.  I kid you not folks, the words to this year's theme song are,

"I was made for this, I live for this
God has a reason, a reason for my life.
I wanna shout it out, without a doubt,
I was born for this, built for a purpose."

Adventures with my children?  Planning VBS?  All of us using this summer to sense our ways forward from here?  It may sometimes be hard to do it all but I am treasuring this season of life.  (And, let's be honest, the anticipation of vacations that are on the horizon...)  Bring it on summer!      

 

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Math problems

The more my boys grow the more apparent it becomes that they have some budding STEAM brains blossoming in their heads (science, technology, engineering, etc.).  Little P loves to build - duplos, baby blocks, crazy fort sticks, tents, pillows, forts, anything he can get his hands on.  Building is his go-to play activity.  And Little B is constantly wondering about how things work and asking questions to understand the inner-working of things.  Right now he's focused on DC's Metro system.  Somehow in the course of dinner conversation tonight the boys started asking math questions and posing "hypotheses" to each other.  It was too good not to share.

It all started when Little B commented that he was cold and I suggested he put more layers on.  One of the boys commented that he wouldn't be cold with 100 layers on and I pointed out that with 100 layers on, he wouldn't be able to move his arms to eat his food (picturing the little brother from A Christmas Story with his snow suit on).  So we created a hypothesis: how many shirts could he put on and still move his arms to eat his food?  Little B guessed 50.  Little P guessed 2.  Sadly, they would not agree to test this hypothesis with me;)

Little P recognizes numbers but doesn't have a real understanding of math concepts yet.  So his questions are along the lines of: "What's 100 milks plus 1 milk?" and "What's 100 tractors plus 48 horses?  7!"

Maybe it's because I'm tired, maybe it was the wine, but this one left me in stitches...
Little B: "What's 1,000 plus 1,000?"
Little P: (with all the volume and enthusiasm he could muster) "1,000!!"

Finally, in an attempt to stump me, Little B asked me how many days were left in this year.  "If there are 366 or 365 days in a year, how many are left this year?"  I guessed about 240 and explained that I derived that number by knowing that this week marks President Trump's 100th day in office and that he was inaugurated on January 20, so subtract 120 from 365 and you get about 240.  I must have used the word celebrate in there somewhere, perhaps to remind him of the celebration his class had of their 100th day of school, because he paused to think and then said, "Mom, I guess you're not celebrating this week!"  Truth son, truth.

Concluding statement from Little P: (as serious as he could be) "This really stumped you."

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Another goodbye

Today feels like too momentous a day to let pass without reflection.  This morning I said goodbye to my childhood home.  My parents bought it 23 years ago, at the end of my fourth grade year, so the majority of my years growing up (especially those that I was old enough to remember) were spent here.

Picture of the house the spring we moved in


As I walked around the nearly empty house last night and this morning, I found myself remembering the different ways the rooms looked over the years.  Where the piano was before and after our move to California.  How the family room furniture was arranged the morning I came home from school early to watch the coverage of the 9/11 attacks.  Where the family computer was and how I could hear the screeching of the AOL dial up over the sounds of brushing my teeth.  And of course my bedroom, which had countless permutations because rearranging my room was a thing for me.  It was in that room where I struggled with middle school angst, my scoliosis, high school boyfriend drama, college applications.  It was in this home that I completed countless hours of homework at the kitchen table while my mom worked away in the kitchen (as if I wondered where I got that habit from!)  It was in this home that Hubby T and I had dinner on our first date, where we planned our wedding, where I had my miscarriage, and where we brought our children to know their aunt and grandparents.  Life has been well lived in this home.

One more run through the backyard, which I think is what they will remember most about this house


When I was growing up, a sign hung on our wall, "Home is where the Navy sends you."  Considering we moved four times by the time I was six this made sense to me.  That sign disappeared somewhere along the way, maybe when my dad retired and this place could stay our home, until the time came to move on, which is now.  I hope the family who moves in here builds a wonderful life, as we did.

Trying to make mommy feel better as we said goodbye


For now I am anxious for the sting of saying goodbye to fade, comforting myself with happy memories, the peace and joy I have in my own current home, and the wise words of Miranda Lambert, "Won't take nothin' but a memory from the house that built me"

Saturday, March 4, 2017

Thoughtful Uncertainty

When I was in high school I encountered an Audio Adrenaline song that frequently ran through my head as I was waking up...

"It's six am, I'm so tired,
The alarm sounds, a new day begins,
before I go and disturb this peaceful morning, I look to you -
I wanna say a prayer, before my feet can hit the ground,
Lord I give this day to you."

That song has been cycling through my head again this week, and this morning.  I share because, as I type this, it is 5:30 am (on a Saturday) and those words seem to be all I have to offer God right now.  Because it's the dawn of Day 6 of my week on campus for this semester.  I have six more hours of class to get through before I can try to safely hold my anxiousness in check as I drive four more hours home to my loves (and kudos to Gramma for holding down the home front this week!)



In the midst of pushing through this fourth year of seminary, taking on a new (and paid!) Christian Ed role in a church, struggling to process in a healthy way what is going on in our country and consider what actions I need to take in response, and dealing with the actions of regular, everyday life, writing about my boys has fallen by the wayside.  Holidays have come and gone, birthdays have come and gone.  Growing is happening all around Hubby T and I and when I have thought about sitting down to try and capture it, I find myself at a loss for words.

My Little B is six years old now and I continue to be, as I always have been, so proud of this boy.  I associate six with learning to read and starting to loose teeth.  He hasn't accomplished either yet but Hubby T and I suspect his brain is just about ready for reading.  We're going to start gently pushing him to read himself more and see what happens.  He doesn't like to try things that are hard, but we also want to give him the skills to not give up just because things are hard, so this will be a learning experience for all of us.  I started reading him the Harry Potter series this winter, we've read the first two books and watched the first two movies.  He is delighted and we are enjoying the fun of sharing stories that we have enjoyed.  I'm also reading him a Mrs. Piggle Wiggle book right now.  I was hoping that her fictional "Won't-Pick-Up-Toys" cure and "Slow-Eater-Tiny-Bite-Taker" cure might have some hidden gems of practical parenting advice for my boys who suffer from similar ailments, but no such luck.



Kindergarten has been a good year so far for Little B.  His teacher told us at his first conference that he's one of the kids she relies on in class to always have the answer and model good behavior, which didn't surprise either of us.  I can tell that he enjoys being part of the school community, participating in school-wide events, riding the bus, being responsible for himself in the crowd.  It squeezes my heart on a daily basis that I don't know who or what he is encountering once he climbs up those big school bus stairs.  And he's not usually very forthcoming with what his school day held (what is it with kids not telling us about their days?!)  I am trying to trust that we are raising a wise son who is learning how to honor God and love his neighbors as he goes along in his daily life, but as the stay at home mom who used to know every detail of his day, this has been hard for me.

Studying old stone with his magnifying glass

And now for the child who I do still know everything about - my Little P, who loves and plays fiercely every moment of every day and leaves me in awe.  It doesn't seem fitting to call him Little P because almost nothing about him is little.  He is a strong, solid kid (weighs more than his older brother now) who wakes up smiling and ready to play and doesn't stop until the minute his head hits the pillow again.  He always, always wants someone to be playing with him, and I just have to hope that I am not causing any permanent psychological damage related to his mother rejecting him when every single day I have to say, "No, I can't play with you right now, I will play with you after I eat my breakfast/lunch".  Fortunately he and his brother have gotten into a wonderful routine of playing together.  It's not always smooth sailing but when it is, it is glorious and I love that their best friends right now are each other.

Don't be fooled, Little P's knees landed there with oomph!


Little B still loves horses, has latched onto a stuffed animal dog that he calls "Doggie" and is drawn like a moth to the flame to anything Star Wars.  If I'd known how strongly he would react I probably would have held off introducing the Star Wars world to him at this young age, but Hubby T was ready to share it with Little B and I think most parents understand (sympathize?) that standards start to lapse for non-eldest children.  The sounds of their pretend light sabers and laser guns are now the soundtrack of my days.  I have struggled with them play acting with violence but have come to a grudging understanding and acceptance of it, at least for now.  Little B enjoys preschool but can't wait to be a Froglet next year (in the classroom and with the teacher that his big brother had).  And I am daily torn between joyfully anticipating the time when they will both climb on the bus in the morning and recognition that the next year and a half before that day is precious time with my littlest one that I won't ever have again.  He sleeps in his bed, with his head on the pillow, under his covers now.  That might sound normal but compared to his butt tucked up in the air position of toddlerhood or how he used to sprawl and lie on the bed in any and every direction like when he had a crib, I feel that my littlest has turned a corner.  We're joyfully turning the corner with him (no more diapers, hooray!) but also prayerfully hoping that we can keep up with this whirlwind of a boy.


Victorious!


Earlier this week my New Testament professor shared a quote that used to hang on a past colleague's door -

Education is the process of moving from cocksure ignorance to thoughtful uncertainty.

This rings so true for my seminary education, as the more I have learned about the Bible and theology the more I have realized how much I don't know. Things I thought I knew I have unlearned and I have had to wrestle with what it means to hold faith and teach faith from a place of "thoughtful uncertainty." I feel the same way about parenting right now too. Gone are the days when I could be confidently sure what I was doing - change diapers, provide food, play in the baby swing at the park, read 2 board books and be ready for bed - it all seems so easy now by comparison! My babies have grown out of the baby/toddler stage at this point, and we are moving forward into elementary-school land, filled with thoughtful uncertainty and hoping for the best.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Christian Education in the future - Final Paper Part 3

Kudos to you if you have made it this far into my paper.  This final question was the ultimate goal of this whole project.  If churches are changing, the job that my degree is designed to prepare me for will not be readily available in the future.  So how can I earn a living doing what I feel called to do?  It was a hard question to answer, hard to find resources that address it.  This will definitely be a question that I will continue to ponder and work through in the years to come.

Learning objective #3: What could the role of Christian educators look like in future churches?


Those of us within the church who are invested in the specific ministry of Christian Education and faith formation are facing these same challenges.  Christian Education leaders have an important role to play in reforming and adapting their work in addition to participating in the new methods of ministry being considered by the broader church.  The general consensus among many Christian Educators is that what we have been doing is not working.  As one author reflected on a recent study about the faith of American teens she wrote, “After years of hearing Bible stories, memorizing Bible verses, and singing songs about Jesus’s love for them, their understanding of faith, of God, and of God’s plans and purposes was simplistic, individualistic, and almost secular,”.  This is another factor that contributes to our understanding of why people have left the church: the faith they were taught did not have enough meaning for them to continue to make it a priority in their adult lives.  This presents a huge opportunity for Christian educators.  We believe in the truth and power of God’s story, so our message does not need to change.  Instead, we should consider how to do what we do better.  
One place to start is to understand who we are teaching and how they learn.  There are currently five generations worshipping and learning in the church: silent/builders, baby boomers, Generation X, Millennials, and the iGeneration.  As educators, we need to be aware of and honor the older members, who are comfortable with how things have been done their whole lives.  We also need to give serious consideration to the younger members, whose methods of thinking and learning do not fit as well with older ways of doing church.  Ivy Beckwith, for example, points out that many curriculum lesson plans come with a defined learning objective, which encourages linear thinking.  However, millennials and iGeneration, the generations currently engaged the most in Christian education, are not primarily linear thinkers.  “Therefore, lessons that are heavily dependent on linear thinking are not going to capture them the same way as lessons that include kinesthetic, intuitive, affective, and ‘loopy’ ways of processing information,”.  Beckwith proposes that we focus instead on creating lessons for these ages that are more experienced based.  She encourages educators to let the stories in the Bible speak for themselves (let the Holy Spirit work and allow students to draw their own conclusions), to be attentive to how children learn through informal education (learn from what is around you, “values are caught, not taught”) and non-formal education (mission trips and projects).  This process of rethinking our teaching methods and then rewriting our lessons and programs will be time consuming and challenging, but has the potential to lead to more impactful faith formation for our students.
A similar shift in the teaching process can be applied to adults through a method that one pastor calls, “theology without a net,”.  This is an approach to Christian education that moves away from the pastor being the theological authority figure who imparts knowledge toward a “theologian in residence” who brings people together to have theological conversations.  These conversations are intentionally designed to occur, “without the net of extensive knowledge and information, without the net of a regular audience assumed to be already steeped in the faith, and without the net of neatly fixed and discrete theological categories,”.  This approach to theology taps into the social nature of the younger generations and their inclination to interact and question theology.  The pastor who champions this idea admits that doing theology this way requires a great deal of trust, both in the people engaging in conversation and in the Holy Spirit.  The advantage to this approach is that it honors the thoughts and contributions of all and builds faith through relationships with others, learning approaches that resonate with younger generations.    
Another different way forward for Christian education is to redesign church programs and worship to incorporate intergenerational learning.  From the beginning of the church in Jesus’ time until approximately the 20th century, people of all ages worshiped and learned together.  There was also an expectation that parents and families were the parties primarily responsible for transmitting faith.  When churches changed to provide programming that was age specific (children in one place in the church, adults in another), it deprived both parties of valuable time to learn and grow in faith together.  It also isolated parents from their children’s faith formation.  Christian educators have a vital role to play in advocating for the importance of intergenerational programs within the church and to walk alongside the parents and adults for whom this concept may be new and intimidating.
Finally, Christian Educators have a role to play in the ways the church as a whole is trying new things.  Christian educators form close, sometimes even intimate, relationships with families.  They can nurture these relationships and potentially build new relationships by utilizing social networks.  Educators need be conscious of the increasing diversity in society and make sure that church programs are welcoming and accessible to a wide variety of people and families.  The influence that Christian educators have over curriculum also poses a great opportunity to help move the church forward.  We can plan events outside the church that might previously have been held inside the church in an effort to better know and be known by our neighborhoods.  We can influence the theology that is taught to children, not to water down the stories of God but to help the children better understand them within their contemporary context.  We can change confirmation curriculum to encourage the process of belonging-behaving-believing.  Finally, we can use the knowledge and experiences that we have to reach out to the “Nones” or Spiritual but Not Religious people in our communities.  This outreach should be done not with the goal of attracting them to church, but to walk with them in the spiritual walks they are pursuing with their families (see Appendix A).
“Exponential change creates exponential fear along with exponential hope,”.  This time of change has fostered a great amount of lament within the church, laments over the loss of members, the loss of respect for the church, even a loss of respect for God.  But the Bible also teaches the church to be hopeful in times of lament because God’s work is not done yet.  Jesus’ resurrection shows that out of darkness and death comes new life.  Many creative ministers and church leaders are already bringing this new life into being and much more work remains to be done (see Appendix B).

Resources cited in this part of the paper:
Ivy Beckwith, Formational Children's Ministry: Shaping Children Using Story, Ritual, and Relationship
Keith Anderson, The Digital Cathedral: Networked Ministry in a Wireless World
Diana Butler Bass, Christianity After Religion: the End of Church and the Birth of a New Spiritual Awakening  

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Where the church is today - Final Paper Part 2

This is a long one and much of what I discuss probably isn't news to those already actively working in the church.  But it was so informative and rewarding to pull all these factors together.  Can you think of anything I've missed?  I'd love your thoughts!

Learning objective #2: Consider the state of Protestant churches in American society today: what is working, what is not working, what changes are being pursued to bring God’s word to life?


What then are the factors in American society that are most affecting the church as it works its way through this time of change?  John Roberto addresses many of them in his book Reimagining Faith Formation for the 21st Century: increasing diversity in American society, the rise of digital technologies, changes and increasing diversity in religious belief, practices and affiliations, and a decline in religious transmission between generations.   Increasing diversity is evident in the five generations currently living in American society (silent/builders, baby boomers, Generation X, Millennials, and the iGeneration).  The United States population is becoming more diverse, as trends indicate that in the next few decades, white non-Hispanic Americans will decrease and all other ethnic categories will increase.  Diversity is also evident in the many different family structures that have arisen as marriage has declined and divorce has increased.  Roberto summarizes how this factor poses a challenge for churches: “Very few congregations are designed to address heterogeneity...How well is congregational faith formation designed to address this new diversity?  How many faith formation programs are based on outdated understandings of the people in their congregation and wider community,”?  
Another pivotal factor affecting the church is the rise of digital technology.  The Internet has saturated American society over the last couple decades and dramatically changed the way people conduct business and live their lives.  The shift of our lives into physical and digital spaces, which was made possible by the rise of the Internet, mobile devices, and social media networks, has led to the rise of “networked individualism,” in which, “[e]ach person has become a communication and information switchboard connecting persons, networks, and institutions,”.  The Internet has connected people in ways not possible before, over geographic distances and keeping people connected who no longer or never were in the same physical space.  This has redefined people’s sense of the neighborhoods they live in and who their neighbors are.  They are no longer dependent on institutions, like the church, to build connections between people.  This is especially true of Millennials, the first generation to grow up and be formed by digital technologies.  “If we want to meet the needs of our current congregations and to continue to share the Gospel with younger generations, we must understand networks and the new technologies that fuel them,”.
Finally, the number of people who consider themselves religious or claim affiliation with an organized religion has dramatically declined in the past couple decades.  At the same time, the number of people with no affiliation, the “Nones” or “Spiritual but Not Religious” (SBNRs) has increased.  People walking away from the church has been a grave concern for those within the church, but they also provide a way forward.  “Unless the church takes seriously the theological reasons that they [SBNRs] give for staying away from organized religion, any efforts to engage this population will be hampered,”.  This movement away from religion also means that faith is not being passed on from one generation to the next.  Demographically speaking this is problematic for the church because it will continue to lose members as the silent generation, who are loyal church members, dies and as the Millennial and iGenerations choose to not attend.  The church can no longer depend on family and societal expectations to keep people attending church as it did in previous decades.  The statistics of religious affiliation and practice demonstrate a deep discontent with the religious status quo and suggest that people want something different if they are to continue to engage or re-engage with the church.  
Many churches and church leaders have already begun wrestling with these challenges and are finding new ways forward.  Diana Butler Bass and John Roberto are two scholars who have considered the factors of belief, behavior, and belonging.  Previously, people spent their childhood learning what to believe about God (catechism, Sunday School, confirmation), then were expected to adopt the faith practices of their family as they reached adulthood, thereby securing their perpetual affiliation with those beliefs and the institution.  As recent years have shown, that format of fostering religious commitment is no longer effective.  Some church leaders believe that the reverse approach, belonging, behaving, and then believing, may be more relevant in today’s society for several reasons.  First, young people are highly engaged in belonging.  Through digital networks it is easy to belong to many communities, both those people are involved with in the real-world and ones they choose to engage with online.  Behavior remains an important middle step because actions are an effective method of teaching faith.  Younger generations are also attracted to action, as their learning style is strongly participatory and built on experiences.  Finally, placing belief last takes the pressure off of individuals to strictly adhere to a denomination or church’s doctrinal stances, which is something many people have cited as a problem they have with institutional religion.  Intellectual reason and scientific knowledge have dramatically changed humankind’s understanding of God and faith.  The youngest generations of today’s society are much more comfortable exploring these tensions.  A church community that embraces people and gently invites them into the life of the community, while welcoming their doubts and questions and demonstrating how to walk the life of faith in God, will likely be more effective at building faith among younger generations.
Another shift that some churches are making is to spend more time outside their walls.  Some church leaders suggest that if people are no longer coming inside churches to hear God’s word, then perhaps the role of churches needs to shift to bringing God’s word out to the people.  This shift can be seen in ministries that arise independent of denominations in order to avoid the obligations they might otherwise have to a denomination’s bureaucracy.  This shift can also be seen in pastors and church leaders who intentionally and creatively work to bring their ministry outside church walls.  From bestowing ashes on people at a subway station to sharing coffee and donuts at a bus stop to holding a worship service next to a food truck to theology discussions in pubs and coffee houses, churches are working to be present and active in the world in ways that are accessible to the religiously affiliated and unaffiliated alike.
Some within the church are also wrestling with the theology they teach.  They are not abandoning fidelity to God’s Word in order to stay relevant but rather are examining anew what God’s Word can say to contemporary culture.  In her examination of America’s “Nones,” for example, Elizabeth Drescher presents a dichotomy between Golden Rule ethics and Good Samaritan ethics.  She presents Golden Rule ethics as the “old” way: the Golden Rule assumes sameness across humans, that what is meaningful and beneficial to one will be the same for others.  While Nones express appreciation for Jesus’ teaching of this rule and often consider it part of their personal morality, they also point out that sameness among humans is not necessarily true (see earlier discussion of increasing diversity).  Nones, and others within churches, are increasingly concerned with broader, world-wide problems.  They want to meaningfully engage with those who are different from them.  The alternative, then, is Good Samaritan ethics.  Jesus’ lesson in the Good Samaritan is to care for others not as you would have them care for you but to love others in their “otherness”.  This concept is echoed by another pastor considering what a different kind of outreach could look like: “moving from a hand-out ministry, past a hands-on one, to one that values the hand-in-hand...a church’s commitment to an outreach program that insists on legitimate, relational experiences where a person is led to invest in those unlike themselves, not just with their work, but even with their intimacy, is so essential,”.  Exploring how to enact Good Samaritan ethics in church programs may lead to newer ways of speaking God’s Word to the world and attract younger generations who want to engage with their faith in participatory, relational, meaning-making ways.
 Another newer theological movement to consider is how people are finding and valuing the sacred in the ordinary.  In the Introduction to Grounded, Diana Butler Bass describes the “vertical theology” that most Christians have been taught: God is far above us in heaven and we humans are on earth, where churches are necessary to mediate between sinful humans and holy God.  In contemporary society, however, Bass sees this understanding breaking down.  “People are leading their own theological revolution and finding that the Spirit is much more with the world than we have previously been taught,”.  Drescher’s understanding of Nones confirms Bass’ assertion that people are finding and naming things holy in their everyday lives.  Many churches have recognized this and begun thinking creatively about how to join people in their sacred ordinary.  This is evidenced by their willingness to have deep theological discussions in bars and coffee shops rather than inside churches.  It is seen in events like Blessing the Backpacks before children start a new school year or a Blessing of the Animals to recognize the importance of pets in people’s lives.  Studies show that religiously affiliated Americans find sacred meaning in the same ordinary things that Nones do, things like food, family, and friends.  This common ground among two different groups demonstrates the contemporary attitude in America that churches do not have a monopoly on God or God’s presence.  Churches who can honor and become involved in the many ways that people see God in the world will have better success connecting with contemporary Americans.  
The many applications of technology to the work of the church are still being discovered, but this discovery process has already led to some exciting innovations.  One application is to use technology to provide church resources to people not physically in the church.  This can include live-streaming a church’s worship service so that members who are unable to physically attend can still participate and feel part of the congregation.  This also means distributing videos, podcasts and other content to facilitate faith formation at home among families.  One of the most significant applications of technology, however, lies in its ability to build and maintain relationships.  Since social media platforms have enabled people to live and share their lives online, churches have an opportunity to be present on those platforms.  Their presence should not be merely to advertise what is going on in their church but to engage in relationship building.  One pastor considers his vocation in this new era to be a “relational leader” whose goal is not to preserve the institution of the church but rather, “to be in relationship, and in relationship we have an opportunity to share the Gospel, finding ourselves in relationship together with God,”.  Relationships motivate young generations and they are an effective way to share God’s Word.  Utilizing technology and social media to make churches a “meaningful node” in people’s networks will help to strengthen the mission of the church.

Books cited in this portion of the paper:
John Roberto, Reimagining Faith Formation for the 21st Century: Engaging All Ages and Generations
Keith Anderson, The Digital Cathedral: Networked Ministry in a Wireless World 
Diana Butler Bass, Christianity After Religion: the End of Church and the Birth of a New Spiritual Awakening
Nate Phillips, Do Something Else: The Road Ahead for the Mainline Church
Elizabeth Drescher, Choosing Our Religion: the Spiritual Lives of America's Nones
Diana Butler Bass, Grounded: Finding God in the World-a Spiritual Revolution